Assalamualaikum to my dear loyal readers (if there are still any haha). So my first year of degree has officially ended, which is actually neither a good nor a bad thing. Because you see, the first is always the easiest (don't trust me, I made it myself). Seniors have been giving a head up that that was only the beginning. The rest, you can tell.
So, one of the most popular issues right now is the abandoned disable teenager. He was found locked in a room in a flat. I did watch the video to get a clearer view of what's really going on. The only word that I could say was 'speechless'. Allahu, I couldn't say more it was so heartbreaking and unbelievable. To see such fleshless boy, can barely move, smeared with his own feces and very confused but is still alive. Kuasa Allah. At first, I was very mad. Indescribably mad towards his mother. For me, she only gave lame excuses to protect her own self and from being bad-mouthed by the society. So, many people came out with lots of opinions, some to stand for the mother's right and some to protect the child. As for me? I choose to protect the child. Even through this humble and unappreciated post, I would definitely say, I'll stand for the child.
We were told everyday that if this heart can't seem to find the right answer to all the doubts, husnudzon would be the best thing to do. Baseless assumptions and judgmental opinions are those that keep our heart in unease. The reasons why we assume is solely because, we are giving hint to everyone that we actually pay attention to our surrounding, even when we know, the judgments we are making are too cruel to be true, since the innocents are pointed as guilty or vice versa. As in Muhammad Firdaus case, the clear pictures that are given to us are that 1) He is being abandoned by for quite sometimes. 2) He is not being attended, not been given food and care and 3) He is left smeared with dirt and his own feces. That's for those who seem to think that Adik Firdaus is a victim of his evil, inhumane mother. And for those who think that maybe Pn. Lola is not at fault, they came out with such statements as 1) She's a poor lady. 2) She can't afford to buy anything. 3) She's too tired to even clean her son after getting back from work. 4) She never lay a hand on Firdaus. 5) She's a victim of the keyboard warriors.
The question is, can our humanity overclouds our rationality? Or does our rationality overshadows our humanity?
I do agree with the concepts of 'think positively', 'we never know what people have been through in their life', or maybe 'we have no idea what kind of life they are living'. Putting ourselves in others' shoes. In most of cases, I did apply such concepts and try my best to husnudzon because maybe our emotions cloud our judgments, and maybe because we have no stronger reasons to rebut. But in this case? No. I would definitely give 'NO' as an answer to the question "Can't you think positively that maybe his mother is not at fault?" Because this time, I guess the whole society can see the obvious. I'm not pointing the mistakes to his mother, solely, because it could be that the current situation the mother is facing is true. But is it that hard to even clean your own son, to spend for about 15 minutes by feeding your son, change his cloth (which won't even take more than 10 minutes), or at least, put him in a better condition. If the love you have for your son is inevitable and never seem to decline, do you still call it love by seeing his bones covered with skins but not flesh? I don't know. I'm not yet a mother. You decide.
Maybe I am being very critical but not analytical. Maybe my anger clouds my judgments and rationality. But I can be very sensitive and super judgmental when it comes to inhumane acts, be it towards humans or even animals. So if you think I'm just another keyboard warrior who loves to put the blame on some innocent people, well I guess you have the right to say so. I am just a 20 years old lady, who pour her thoughts and feelings on this unvisited and humble blog, but I will always be that kind of person who are very critical and judgmental towards cases like this.
Regardless of the social classes that you belong or any lacking conditions of yours (times, money, strength), I still believe that the best you can give to your family is love, when money can't seem to help.
Again, I am just an ordinary lady with flaws and mistakes.
We were told everyday that if this heart can't seem to find the right answer to all the doubts, husnudzon would be the best thing to do. Baseless assumptions and judgmental opinions are those that keep our heart in unease. The reasons why we assume is solely because, we are giving hint to everyone that we actually pay attention to our surrounding, even when we know, the judgments we are making are too cruel to be true, since the innocents are pointed as guilty or vice versa. As in Muhammad Firdaus case, the clear pictures that are given to us are that 1) He is being abandoned by for quite sometimes. 2) He is not being attended, not been given food and care and 3) He is left smeared with dirt and his own feces. That's for those who seem to think that Adik Firdaus is a victim of his evil, inhumane mother. And for those who think that maybe Pn. Lola is not at fault, they came out with such statements as 1) She's a poor lady. 2) She can't afford to buy anything. 3) She's too tired to even clean her son after getting back from work. 4) She never lay a hand on Firdaus. 5) She's a victim of the keyboard warriors.
The question is, can our humanity overclouds our rationality? Or does our rationality overshadows our humanity?
I do agree with the concepts of 'think positively', 'we never know what people have been through in their life', or maybe 'we have no idea what kind of life they are living'. Putting ourselves in others' shoes. In most of cases, I did apply such concepts and try my best to husnudzon because maybe our emotions cloud our judgments, and maybe because we have no stronger reasons to rebut. But in this case? No. I would definitely give 'NO' as an answer to the question "Can't you think positively that maybe his mother is not at fault?" Because this time, I guess the whole society can see the obvious. I'm not pointing the mistakes to his mother, solely, because it could be that the current situation the mother is facing is true. But is it that hard to even clean your own son, to spend for about 15 minutes by feeding your son, change his cloth (which won't even take more than 10 minutes), or at least, put him in a better condition. If the love you have for your son is inevitable and never seem to decline, do you still call it love by seeing his bones covered with skins but not flesh? I don't know. I'm not yet a mother. You decide.
Maybe I am being very critical but not analytical. Maybe my anger clouds my judgments and rationality. But I can be very sensitive and super judgmental when it comes to inhumane acts, be it towards humans or even animals. So if you think I'm just another keyboard warrior who loves to put the blame on some innocent people, well I guess you have the right to say so. I am just a 20 years old lady, who pour her thoughts and feelings on this unvisited and humble blog, but I will always be that kind of person who are very critical and judgmental towards cases like this.
Regardless of the social classes that you belong or any lacking conditions of yours (times, money, strength), I still believe that the best you can give to your family is love, when money can't seem to help.
Again, I am just an ordinary lady with flaws and mistakes.
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